SnarkyMoms

My daughter has some health problems, including eating difficulties, allergies, and an immune disorder.  My  husband recently embarrassed me during an outing in which I was asked if I attended a mom’s Bible study.  I said “No, I wish I could but my daughter can’t attend the nursery so I’m stuck.”

My husband, who was nearby, said, “Well, she could, but…”

I was flabbergasted.  What the hell was he talking about? 

I could just feel the woman looking and me and thinking, “Right… Want to go to Bible study but you can’t because of the baby.  Surrrrreeee….”

I asked my husband right then and there what he meant.  In a follow up discussion later he admitted that he thought I wasn’t letting her go to nurseries and the like because of her food allergies - that I was afraid of food on the floor and such.   I asked him where he’d been the last six months since the immunologist told us to restrict her interaction with other children by avoiding nurseries/daycares/and so on.  He’d just missed it; he thought we were wiping her hands off at the mall every two seconds just because of a concern about her catching something, just like you would with any other kid.

Sigh.

My father-in-law is no better.  Everyone who has been within 10 feet of me knows that my daughter can only eat a few things.  Even casual friends (and in one case, their 10-year-old son), can recite her limited diet.  And yet recently my father-in-law offered my daughter a cracker.  A CRACKER!  And when we said she couldn’t have it, he asked “Why not?”

On what planet do these men reside?  I think I’d better keep an eye on my son.  Maybe this kind of ignorance is genetic.